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FlourishThe Gallup Organization has reported that fewer than half of American workers believe they get to work each day in the area of their passion or strength. In short, most people endure their jobs and can hardly wait for the weekend. Many believe it’s silly to even think you CAN have a passion for your work.

At Growing Leaders, we divide the idea of “passion” into two categories:

1. Interest-based Passions

2. Issue-based Passions

 Interest-based passions are like hobbies or activities we pursue for enjoyment. Issue-based passions are causes that give us a sense of fulfillment. Most people don’t need an assessment to know how much they like baseball or photography (interest-based passions). Issue-based passions will help fuel your purpose in life and define the legacy you leave behind.  Some passions are commonly referred to as causes when they’re actually important means (methods or tools) used to produce some other end (result or goal). For example, leadership is not an end in itself but an important means to some other end. The same could be said of politics or mentoring. I always encourage people (whether students or adults) to give specific thought to the bottom line; the “end” you want to produce through the “means” (method) you have chosen.

I have a question for you: Are you passionate about your work? When you have a convergence of four ingredients, you’ll love your work and will be productive at it:

1. Your Strengths – You have a gift or ability in this area

2. Your Situation – You work in a context that naturally fits you

3. Your Style – You can pursue it in a way that fits your identity

4. Your Subject – You love the issue your organization addresses

Put another way—these four ingredients all revolve around and create your passion. These four create energy, creativity, joy, and magnetically attract other people. Now, evaluate yourself based on these four ingredients:

1. STRENGTH – Your inward abilities, made up of talents, knowledge, gifts, skills.

Question: Are you using your strengths at least 75% of the time at work?

2. SITUATION – The context and group chemistry in which gifts and style function.

Question: Are you working in an environment that brings out the best in you?

3. STYLE – The outward approach in which you relate to and lead teams.

Question: Are you free to pursue the organization’s mission in a natural way?

4. SUBJECT – The issue or cause for which you have a high level of fulfillment.

 Question: Do you love the issue or cause for which you labor?

If this resonates with you, I have some good news. Growing Leaders has just created a four-part resource called Flourish to help staff and students discover the life they were meant to live.  The resource includes a launch event, a DVD series, a workbook and an on-line assessment called: My Passion Profile. Check out the website at MyPassionProfile.com. It’s specifically focused on helping you reality test & rank your issue-based passions. Or, if you’re interested, give us a call to find out more. Call Chloe Lufkin at (678) 384-4484.

More on this tomorrow. For now, go pursue your passions.

Tim

In: Leadership

Lightning-RodYesterday, I posted Part One of a two-part series called, “Lightning Rods.” I suggested that lightning rods are a picture of healthy leadership—especially when critics attack. You likely know that those rods on top of buildings attract the lightning strike and ground it so it doesn’t damage the building. In the same way, leaders take the hit (criticism) to prevent their teams from damage.

Today, I’d like you to reflect on the following nine ideas on handling criticism as a leader. Are you a good lightning rod for your team?

Check out these thoughts…

1. Understand the difference between constructive and destructive criticism.
Do they want to help you or hurt you? Can you see any redemptive outcome from it?

 2. Recognize that people act out what they are experiencing inside. It may not be about you.
Hurting people naturally hurt people. Intimidated people intimidate. What’s inside comes out.

 3. Remember that good people get criticized.
Some of the finest leaders in history were attacked. You’re in good company.

 4. Don’t just see the critic, see the crowd.
Don’t let minority rule. Are others feeling the same way as the critic or are they isolated?

5. Eat the fish and spit out the bones.
Digest the criticism and act on anything that’s accurate. Improve what you can. Discard the rest.

6. Trust God and wait for time to prove them wrong.
Lincoln’s “Gettysburg Address” was considered shameful and poorly written at the time.

7. Act don’t react. Don’t get defensive.
Don’t let their emotion dictate yours. Thank them for their opinions. Take the high road.

 8. Seek wise counsel from others.
Consult with other leaders to see what kernels of truth might be in the criticism.

9. Concentrate on your mission, change your mistakes.
Many leaders get so frazzled when criticized that they do the opposite.

One last thought. Many people today have never seen a healthy leader deal with criticism or conflict in a redemptive way. You may be the first lightning rod they’ve experienced. May your storms build even more healthy leaders.

Tim

To read Part One of the Lightning Rod series, click here.

In: Leadership

LightningTwo years ago, our city endured an extremely harsh thunderstorm. It was like we were in the movies. Lightning flashed and thunder crashed, trees fell down, some rooftops were ruptured, and power lines were out for days.

After the storm, several business owners made a smart move: they installed lightning rods. In case you’re not familiar with them, lightning rods are metal strips or rods, usually made of copper, used to protect buildings or structures from a violent lightning strike. The lightning rod is connected with a cable to the earth below, where it can channel the charge to a safe place. These rods are placed atop roofs to attract lightning and protect buildings from lightning strikes. In fact, they are needed most on structures that are tall or isolated. You see, lightning has a tendency to strike whatever is nearest or at the highest elevation.

“Lightning Rods” is one of our Habitudes which are images that form leadership habits and attitudes. Leaders operate like lightning rods. They naturally attract light and heat from others. They are most likely to be criticized when things go wrong, blamed if things don’t get fixed and honored if things go well. When a storm hits, they take the light and heat for the team. Both the perk and the price of leadership is recognition. People look to you. The downside of this is criticism. No one pays much attention to the crowd. If you’re leading others you’ll be criticized. People focus on the one up front. President Harry Truman said, “If you can’t stand the heat stay out of the kitchen.” The key is to ground the heat in a positive way.

I don’t know of any leader who did this better than President Abraham Lincoln. It’s likely no president in American history received such criticism and dishonor, sometimes from those who worked closest to him. Lincoln received much grief and bitterness from War Secretary Stanton. Once, a clerk asked President Lincoln what he thought of Stanton. Lincoln said he felt he was a good leader, straightforward and almost always right. The clerk looked at him and said, “Mr. President, do you know that Mr. Stanton thinks you are an ape and criticizes you as a fool every chance he gets? How could you say such a thing?”

Mr. Lincoln just smiled at the clerk, and replied, “You didn’t ask me what Stanton thought of me. You asked what I thought of Mr. Stanton.”

Lincoln kept a level head and didn’t strike back. He took the heat for his team several times when Southerners lashed out at his cabinet. During the Civil War, Lincoln once encouraged a general to attack; but the general feared losing his reputation if the battle didn’t go well. Lincoln then did the unthinkable. He wrote the general and said: “I want you to go on the offense. If the battle goes well, you can take all the credit for victory. If it doesn’t go well, I will take the blame completely.”

Lincoln also found a way to build lightning rods in his own leadership; places he could vent and not damage team members. When angry with someone, Lincoln would occasionally write a hot letter to them. Then, he would set it aside until he cooled down. Inevitably, he would never send it. He had a drawer of angry letters he never sent.

Tomorrow, I will post Part Two on this topic and offer nine ideas on how to handle criticism as a leader. For now, I have a question for you:

How do you deal with criticism?

Tim

In: Leadership

I rarely take time to respond to critics. Today, I will. It’s not because I feel the need to defend myself, but because the students we lead are at risk if we bury our heads in the sand.

There are some well-intentioned academicians out there who’ve read Generation iY—Our Last Chance to Save Their Future, and thought I was too alarmist. They say things like: “Hey, adults always felt that teenagers were disrespectful, lazy and aimless. Why all of a sudden is the issue so earth-shattering?”

I can understand this sentiment. In fact, for most of the thirty-two years I’ve worked with young people, I was the one saying it. Today, however, I am not. Let me tell you the difference between our concern for students in our culture today, versus thirty years ago, or even three centuries ago.

1. We have a bulge in the youth population, much like we did as the Baby Boomers came of age in the 1960s. Today, the bulge is in dangerous places.

2. Technology allows information to reach young people without the filter of a caring adult or parent. Kids don’t need adults to get information.

 3. Thanks to social media, youth can converge (we now call it a flashmob) on a location and do whatever they wish: steal, rape, kidnap, pillage.

This can be a good thing, as we saw in Cairo this past January where the “youth revolution” ousted their failing president. It can also be a bad thing, as we’ve seen more recently in Chicago or London.

The bottom line? Millions of students have little guidance or boundaries. To them, the adult population, by and large, has no moral authority. Look at how we’ve handled our money (credit card debt, mortgage foreclosures and even government bankruptcy) and look at how we’ve handled our marriages and families (high divorce rates and 62% of kids today growing up without their biological father). So, while society has had evils in the past, the potential for implosion today is higher than ever, thanks to the youth population and ubiquitous technology.

In the Generation iY book, I made some predictions that have already come true. First, the expanded youth population will lead to riots and revolutions. We’ve only seen the tip of the iceberg in the Middle East: Egypt, Libya, Syria, Yemen. Get ready to watch CNN or Fox News as these kids express themselves in the years ahead.

I also made a prediction about long-term commitment. I forecast that by 2030, a five-year marriage contract would be normal. Today, lawmakers in Mexico have joined two other nations in proposing short-term marriages, as little as two years.

I am not a prophet of doom. I am asking that adults wake up to the need to lead. We must re-establish our moral authority. For many adolescents, we have no credibility. Many of our kids around the world are a part of a “leader-less generation.” We didn’t stick to the values we claimed to live by, we haven’t been transparent about our mistakes and we haven’t offered a clear compass for our kids.

Am I making too big of a deal over this?  I hope so. Let me know your thoughts.

Tim

(For a copy of Generation iY, go to: www.SaveTheirFutureNow.com.)

In: Generation iY, Leadership

targetLast week, I had the chance to speak to three hundred athletes on the campus of Greenville College. Greenville is a small, private Christian college in the town of Greenville, Illinois, population 7,000.

What I loved most about the coaches and players at this school is that while they compete to win games, they are about something far bigger than W’s on a field or a court. Their scorecard is a bit larger than most teams. The athletic department is attempting to build men and women with character, leadership and the kind of virtues that make for great citizens once they graduate. I know, I know…this sounds so cliché. Isn’t every college program trying to do this?

Nope. For some, the only scorecard that counts is next Saturday’s.

May I give you an example of what good leadership looks like for student athletes? The Greenville College basketball team is led by Coach George Barber.

In order to cultivate responsibility:

1. When a player is called for a foul, they must raise their hand high for all to see, and for the scorekeepers to note without a referee running over to confirm. (We all did this when I played basketball in school, but we got away from it, thinking it wasn’t cool or might humiliate a player).

2. When the ball goes out of bounds or play is stopped, the player closest to the ball runs it over and hands it to the referee. This reinforces service and humility, as well as respect for authority. This is also a lost art today, as players seem to think it’s always someone else’s job to do that sort of thing.

3. Following games, the entire team gathers on the court for “Afterglow.” Family and fans can gather as well. In this brief gathering, players do “put ups” which are short comments of encouragement or affirmation, for what teammates did that night during the game. This reinforces big-picture vision among the players. Following the “put ups” players can introduce out-of-town family members.

4. Finally, after each game and Afterglow, players lock arms and sing the school alma mater as a team. While they don’t claim to be a choir, this reinforces team spirit and camaraderie for everyone. It reinforces unity before heading to the showers, even if the team lost the game.

Whether you’re a coach, teacher, youth worker or some other leader, the patterns you reinforce send messages to your students. Do you reinforce the big picture with your leadership style? Or…is it just about next week’s game?

Tim

In: Leadership

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